Most People Can’t See The Pattern That’s Choosing Their Relationships
Research on 10,000+ couples revealed something that changes everything: The patterns that predict your relationship outcomes operate completely outside your conscious awareness.
"I've been in therapy for 3 years talking about my 'fear of commitment.' This assessment showed me in 20 minutes that I have The Proximity Paradox pattern, I don't fear commitment, my nervous system associates closeness with unpredictability. That one reframe changed everything."".
Emma C. 31
"The specificity is what shocked me. It didn't just say I have 'anxious attachment', it explained the exact childhood dynamic that formed my Validation Cycle, how it shows up in arguments, and the three specific moments when it activates. I finally understand myself..”
Marcus R. 37
"I kept attracting the same emotionally unavailable type. The report showed me it wasn't bad luck my Performance Loop pattern was specifically choosing people I could 'earn' love from. Once I saw it, I couldn't unsee it. My next relationship was completely different."
Priya S. 34
"My friend had me take this. She said it gave her more insight into my patterns in 24 hours than 6 months of sessions. We now use the report as our roadmap".
Oliver H. 29
The Science Behind Raw Connect
40+ years of relationship research (Gottman, Johnson, Levine, Bowlby) proves:
-94% of relationship behaviour is driven by automatic patterns formed in early attachment
- 68% of people who identify their core pattern report increased relationship satisfaction within 6 months
- Pattern recognition changes relationship choices 4.3x more than therapy alone
The Raw Connect Assessment is built on this research, designed to surface the specific blueprint that's been operating in your relationships.
The 7 Core Relational Blueprints
Drawing on attachment research and relationship psychology, we have organized common patterns into 7 categories:
The Proximity Paradox
Wants closeness but creates distance when it arrives:
- Pursues hard, then pulls back when someone's available
- Feels most attracted during uncertainty
- Mistakes anxiety for chemistry
The Performance Loop
Earns love through achievement and over-giving:
- Believes love is conditional on being "enough"
- Over-functions in relationships
- Fears being needed for who they are vs. what they do
The Safety Seeker
Avoids conflict to maintain emotional safety:
- Says "I'm fine" when they're not
- Chooses partners who don't push emotionally
- Learned that emotional expression = danger
The Validation Cycle
Needs constant reassurance love is secure:
- Hypervigilant to small changes in partner's behaviour
- Interprets normal distance as rejection
- Struggles with trust even in healthy relationships
The Independence Script
Uses self-reliance as armor against vulnerability:
- "I don't need anyone" as protective strategy
- Uncomfortable with emotional dependence
- Learned early that asking for help = weakness
The Merger Pattern
Loses sense of self when in relationship:
- Adopts partner's interests, opinions, needs
- Struggles with boundaries
- Fears abandonment leads to over-accommodation
The Control Sequence
Manages anxiety through certainty and predictability:
- Needs to know where partner is, what they're thinking
- Struggles with ambiguity
- Uses control to feel safe
The best part is Raw Connect’s analysis goes beyond the seven frameworks. Raw Connect doesn’t stop at labels. It synthesizes the seven blueprints with contemporary research and individual data to surface unseen dynamics, predict relational outcomes, and deliver tailored, life‑altering steps.
Quick Snapshot
Best for: People who want to identify their pattern and explore on their own.
Your core relational blueprint identified
Basic pattern overview (3-4 pages)
Key behavioural markers
$29
Priority Full Report
Best for: People who want complete pattern clarity and actionable strategies.
Full 10-15 page pattern deep-dive
3-5 custom rewiring practices
Detailed formation analysis
Lifetime access + future updates
$129
The Raw Connect Guarantee
If your Blueprint Report genuinely doesn't provide the pattern clarity we promise, specific insights about why you make the relationship choices you make, email us within 30 days for a full refund.
The clarity either hits or it doesn't. If it doesn't, you get your money back.
What The Research Shows About Pattern Recognition
Studies on relationship patterns prove that identifying your core blueprint leads to:
Immediate Changes:
- 63% reduction in automatic reactive behaviors within first month
- 72% increase in recognizing incompatible partners before deep attachment
- 81% report feeling "finally understood" what drives their choices
Long-Term Impact:
- 4.3x more likely to make different relationship choices
- 68% increase in relationship satisfaction scores at 6-month follow-up
- 89% report the pattern awareness was more valuable than years of therapy
The difference isn't fixing yourself.
*It's seeing the invisible system that's been choosing for you.
Sample Report Excerpt
This is an anonymized excerpt from an actual Raw Connect Blueprint Report, shared with full written consent from the recipient. This represents approximately 15% of a complete report. This excerpt is provided for illustrative purposes only and may not be reproduced or distributed without permission.
It didn't just tell me who I am, it explained how i became this way. And for the first time, I understood my patterns instead of blaming myself.
- Sophie L., 32
How it Works
Step 1: Take The Assessment (Free)
16 questions, 12-16 minutes. You can start without paying—review your responses before submitting.
Step 2: Choose Your Report Level
After completing the assessment, choose Snapshot ($37), Complete ($97), or Priority ($197).
Step 3: Receive Your Blueprint
Your report arrives in your inbox within 24 hours (12 hours for Priority).
Step 4: Apply The Insights
Use the specific practices and recognition protocols to begin rewiring your pattern.
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Questions You Might Have
No. The report is crafted to be accessible, actionable and insightful.
Perfect. This goes deeper. Knowing you're "anxiously attached" doesn't tell you WHY you're specifically attracted to emotionally unavailable people, or WHAT precise trigger activates your pattern, or HOW to recognize it operating before you're already reactive. That's what the Blueprint Report provides.
Yes. All responses are confidential and securely handled.
Your blueprint isn't a judgment, it's a map. The research is clear: Simply seeing your pattern operating reduces its automatic control by 63%. Awareness IS the intervention. Plus, 30-day money-back guarantee if it doesn't provide clarity.
Absolutely. Many couples take it separately, then share their reports. Understanding both blueprints often explains years of confusion in minutes. Some people report it saved their relationship.
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